We hear it all the time: the beginning of a relationship is exciting because everything is new. Then the honeymoon period ends, novelty disappears, and desire inevitably follows.

But does novelty really disappear? Or have we just defined it too narrowly?

They explore desire as a pull towards exploration, novelty and connection; why safety and freedom may be complementary rather than competing needs; and what happens when long-term relationships become something we “set and forget”.

Along the way: curious monkeys, secure attachment, tennis teams, capitalism, Prince Charming, mismatched desire, and the unexpected realisation that perhaps we are all just children carrying our latest Lego creation back to someone we love and saying, Look what I made.